How to teach your partner to give you pleasure
- Communicate: Open and honest dialogue is crucial. Discuss your desires and preferences clearly.
- Experiment: Try different techniques and positions
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How to teach your partner to give you sexual pleasure
Making love is a beautiful moment that connects you to your partner and creates a strong complicity; but what happens when your partner(s) does not reflect exactly what you seek in intimacy? Sometimes it is “sexual chemistry,” a strong (or absent) emotional and physical connection; other times the couple’s chemistry can be created and can grow together, Teaching the partner what we like. To have an increasingly intense and engaging sexual experience, here are some tips to keep in mind and possibly share with your partner to guide him or her to the strings you prefer.
Reality is not a movie
Cartoons from little ones and love movies from older ones (including pornography) gives us back a vision of the couple that is detached from reality, especially in intimacy, on a physical and sexual level. In reality, perfection of bodies does not exist, just as shocking or thunderous sexual performances do not always exist.
It is normal to be imperfect, it is normal to experience moments of awkwardness and it is equally normal to have easy and serene sexual relations. You don’t necessarily have to propose strange positions or special lingerie: accept and embrace that something may not go as expected and don’t blame yourself or your partner for it. Getting to know each other, talking and experimenting is part of the game.
The importance of sincerity
Talking to each other with an open heart is a key component in the couple, in and out of bed. If you like something, for example, that you have experienced alone or previously, if you want to introduce a new game or something different that tickles your thoughts, do not be afraid in saying and sharing a erotic fantasy. In such cases, of course, also try to understand any rejections or disagreements: not everything you like may also please your partner, so it is essential to talk about it and arrive at the right compromises, so as to satisfy both.
Similarly, Be honest even when you don’t like something or doesn’t tickle your fancy: it is useless to strive to do something unwillingly, especially in sexuality! So don’t put effort into faking an orgasm or not doing things you don’t like: you will see that often talking sincerely and calmly is helpful in strengthening your relationship.
Duration doesn’t really matter, so does orgasm
Something that ties in with sincerity is knowing that the duration of sexual intercourse matters yes, but up to a certain point. What is important to emphasize in the couple and with the partner is that the main aspects are complicity and intensity. When there is fellowship and affinity between you, the rest is secondary, including the duration of sexual performance: the important thing is to feel connected and to experience pleasure.
Reaching orgasm every time is also unimportant: often, many guys see orgasm as a yardstick for good or bad performance. As complex as this couple dynamic is and would deserve a in-depth study, It tends to and generally speaking, faking an orgasm is not helpful, especially to you.
It is entirely normal not to get to experience orgasm every time: you can quietly and calmly tell your partner so that you can experience couple intimacy with serenity and achieve moments of intense pleasure equally. If you have any doubts and to avert physical problems if you do not reach orgasm, you should consult a gynecologist.
When to act and when not to act: understanding the right moments
Guide your partner to understand the right moments when to talk about sexuality or when you both want some intimacy: drop the right signals, such as a joke or a hidden fantasy, so you can help your partner get into the topic. Be proactive when you feel like saying or doing something and lead him into your desires so that together you venture into what you like best.
Sex toys: why not?
Sex toys and quirky accessories: if you like something and want to have fun with Unusual accessories to intensify or diversify your sexual relationship you can play with the ones you prefer during intimacy together and see his reaction. Or, for more emotional peace of mind, try introduce the topic when you talk about sex and intimacy, so you can test the waters before inserting a new object between the sheets. If you then want to have even more unusual fun, go further with your partner to the sexting: if you are tickled by the idea make it clear that some “hot” sexting might involve you and have fun, especially when you are far apart, before you meet together. See what happens, being careful about privacy.
